While recruitment can be a fun and rewarding experience, sometimes it does not always go as we had planned. I know first hand how stressful it can be when your expectations don't match up with what really happens on Bid Day. No matter how hard it is at first, there are a few really good tools you can use to help ease that disappointment!
Look up all the amazing things about your sorority!
One of the things that really helped me after Bid Day was going online and doing some research about Theta. Look up notable alumnae, philanthropy involvement, fundraising, and reputation nationally. Once you realize all of the amazing things that your sorority has to offer, you will automatically feel better about where you ended up!
Spend time going to the events with sisters!
You might want to hide away and not attend sisterhood events, but it's really important to go! You could meet people here that you didn't know before, and usually these events are geared toward getting to know each other and bonding. Even if you are skeptical, the first step is putting yourself out there. You may not even realize it but soon enough you're having a great time and getting along with all your new sisters.
You might want to hide away and not attend sisterhood events, but it's really important to go! You could meet people here that you didn't know before, and usually these events are geared toward getting to know each other and bonding. Even if you are skeptical, the first step is putting yourself out there. You may not even realize it but soon enough you're having a great time and getting along with all your new sisters.
Reach out to friends and family!
It's important to take some time to chat with a friend or family member if you are feeling upset about how your recruitment process went. Sometimes we just need to release our stresses and feelings, and a family member or close friend from home will be understanding of your situation. Also, if you know anyone from home who was a member of that sorority, try reaching out to them. They may provide uplifting stories of their experience that will encourage you to stick it out.
It's important to take some time to chat with a friend or family member if you are feeling upset about how your recruitment process went. Sometimes we just need to release our stresses and feelings, and a family member or close friend from home will be understanding of your situation. Also, if you know anyone from home who was a member of that sorority, try reaching out to them. They may provide uplifting stories of their experience that will encourage you to stick it out.
Get involved!
If you are a natural leader, get involved with committees and leadership roles in the sorority! In some cases, you may be upset because the chapter is new, underdeveloped, or reflects different ideals that those which the new members value. Being a leader means that you get to see your vision come to life, so make it happen!
If you are a natural leader, get involved with committees and leadership roles in the sorority! In some cases, you may be upset because the chapter is new, underdeveloped, or reflects different ideals that those which the new members value. Being a leader means that you get to see your vision come to life, so make it happen!
Set yourself a time limit!
If you're unhappy with your bid, give yourself a week to test the waters and see how you like this sorority. As long as you don't attend initiation, you can choose to drop without any real consequences. After a week, evaluate your feelings. Did you like the events enough that you would want to try for another week? Did you meet any girls who you really bonded with? Or were you totally unhappy and would prefer to not become an official member of sorority XYZ? It's up to you! But allow yourself some buffer time to cool off and see how things go.
If you're unhappy with your bid, give yourself a week to test the waters and see how you like this sorority. As long as you don't attend initiation, you can choose to drop without any real consequences. After a week, evaluate your feelings. Did you like the events enough that you would want to try for another week? Did you meet any girls who you really bonded with? Or were you totally unhappy and would prefer to not become an official member of sorority XYZ? It's up to you! But allow yourself some buffer time to cool off and see how things go.
Keep in touch!
Often times, sororities will have older members who experienced similar disappointment act as mentors during the first few weeks of the new member process. Find a girl you really like and use her as a resource to talk about how you're feeling. You might not realize it, but the chapter actually benefits immensely from this feedback and would be glad to hear about what improvements to make for next year. Don't block the girls out, utilize the resources they provide and you may even meet a great new friend!
Often times, sororities will have older members who experienced similar disappointment act as mentors during the first few weeks of the new member process. Find a girl you really like and use her as a resource to talk about how you're feeling. You might not realize it, but the chapter actually benefits immensely from this feedback and would be glad to hear about what improvements to make for next year. Don't block the girls out, utilize the resources they provide and you may even meet a great new friend!
Try again!
There are a few reasons why you may choose not to be in a sorority - 1. You dropped out mid-recruitment, 2. You did not receive a bid, 3. You dropped out after receiving a bid or 4. You decided not to go through the process for whatever reason. All of those things are okay! You have a great opportunity to either get very involved in other clubs that you may not have had the time for, or try again during another round of recruitment. Sometimes you must wait a whole year and try again during Formal, but other times certain sororities will have Informal Recruitment which is more low-key and less stressful than the Formal rounds. If you choose to try recruitment again, keep an open mind and present your best self. You're going to kill it!
There are a few reasons why you may choose not to be in a sorority - 1. You dropped out mid-recruitment, 2. You did not receive a bid, 3. You dropped out after receiving a bid or 4. You decided not to go through the process for whatever reason. All of those things are okay! You have a great opportunity to either get very involved in other clubs that you may not have had the time for, or try again during another round of recruitment. Sometimes you must wait a whole year and try again during Formal, but other times certain sororities will have Informal Recruitment which is more low-key and less stressful than the Formal rounds. If you choose to try recruitment again, keep an open mind and present your best self. You're going to kill it!
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